The Family Team

Just stepped into my own home last night, after a two-and-a half month absence. A family caregiving errand of mercy in another state has accounted for this situation. But I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I was just so glad I could be of assistance to my brother's family as they navigated the turbulent new waters of caregiving for his wife's mother and her cardiovascular needs, which have intensified the last few months, causing several hospitalizations.

With most of the family working, I saw firsthand how difficult one's care can be. It took all of us, using all our strength and endurance, to organize and perform all the daily tasks that were required in taking care of just this one 94-year-old person.

The upside of this was the way it fostered teamwork and made our family closer to each other. Yes, there were learning moments when we all needed to hit our "reset" buttons and get back to what we were there for. But on the whole, it felt like we were growing and managing this together, and that was a comforting thought.

It's difficult when you go at it alone with caring for someone, however. If someone is struggling to do this, for whatever reason, you can be someone who makes a difference. Offer to help. Any amount of assistance can be beneficial. Don't be afraid to ask. And make your offers specific. Encourage them to be specific about their needs. But, by all means, let caregivers know you care about them as well.

mother and daughter, filling the weekly pill box for grandma--no small task!